*I am not a medical doctor. I am a proponent of speaking with several doctors from different backgrounds and getting their advice before making medical decisions for your family.
“The last thing standing between a child and industry corruption is a mom.” – RFK, jr.
In recent years, an increasing number of parents have been concerned about the quality of their local pediatricians. Perhaps a neighbor or a close relative tipped them off to the dark side of pharmaceuticals. They have heard about injuries and deaths resulting from routine ‘wellness visits’, and they pause before putting their own children at risk.
You don’t turn a blind eye to devastated families when you have kids of your own. You just don’t. You consider delaying some standard medical interventions for as long as possible.
And you read more real stories about real families who are experiencing real challenges.
You go further and read what a growing number of PhDs have to say, now that they cannot in good conscience remain silent. (A good place to start is The Vaccine Friendly Plan by Dr. Paul Thomas. From there, you check out the websites of Dr. Lawrence Pavelsky and Dr. Sherry Tenpenny.)
You may encounter people who chose to delay shots, and you may encounter people who refuse them altogether. You might settle for all but one, or only one. Keep your wits about you – and keep considering the views of those who seem to balk at info presented by VAERS. Why not listen to the person who was afflicted by a condition that could have been prevented by Hep shots?
You will find that things are not as black and white as some might believe.
It is best to be receptive of information without taking strong positionalities that bring about heightened emotions. Keep an arm’s length between you and what you are reading. It is true that missing context exists on both sides.
And do not let fear paralyze you from making a decision about your baby’s healthcare.
I would NOT recommend NOT taking your child to a healthcare provider just to avoid uncomfortable confrontations. It is crucial that you have a professional detect conditions that you either overlook or do not have the tools to find (e.g. heart murmur).
Search far and wide for a provider who will treat you like a person and honor your decisions.
You may end up taking your child to an alternative professional instead of a pediatrician. Perhaps a family doctor will be the right choice for you. An increasing number of parents are opting for naturopaths and chiropractic care either in lieu of or in addition to a pediatrician.
I’ll admit that when I first heard of someone taking their baby to a chiro, I wondered if they had lost their marbles. Do babies crack?
As it turns out, many chiropractors have the skills to adjust babies in a way that eliminates colic issues. Pediatricians, in contrast, typically tell parents to just roll with it, perhaps with a little gripe water that doesn’t even work.
I recently learned that naturopaths DO provide mainstream pharma products for those parents that select one or all of them once their kids reach a certain age. They are real professionals who do not live in the hollow of old oak trees with cauldrons and rhino horns.
Always use your discernment, and feel free to change your mind as often as you’d like. If something feels “off”, move forward to another professional.
If you begin to feel staff bullying you and stalling your departure, slice through the tension by saying with a smile, “I’m going to get another opinion.”
I wouldn’t waste my time trying to argue with them. These are people who have made peace with injuring children for a dollar. Just leave.
And if the nearest tolerant, uncompromised, well-informed pediatrician is a 2-hr drive away, just make the drive. I would. Remember, you cannot undo an injection once it’s done. Many grief-stricken parents say the same.
I personally chose an excellent ARNP for my kids. I had found her easily through an internet search. The amazing nurse who helped me during labor strongly recommended her, too, when she realized that I had concerns about the Vitamin K intervention and its black box warning.
My kids’ ARNP has a dynamic education and decades of experience. She provides bountiful information about current mainstream and alternative recommendations for my children. She also informs me of holistic treatments that are wildly successful for certain conditions. For example, she has treated several ear infections with a Chinese herbal tea that proved to be more effective than antibiotics.
You can’t argue with results. Unless, of course, you are compromised by Big Pharma. This lady isn’t.
I feel that I am making informed decisions after speaking with her and getting thorough answers. Her kindness and sensitivity seal the deal for me. She’s well worth the longish drive.
So, what happens when you are faced with resistance from your medical provider?
I have faced it at a prenatal appointment. When I simply said ‘no’, I was met with a condescending lecture. It was pretty clear to me that this provider was not aligned with my vision, and it was time to go. I didn’t express anything in that moment. I was benign.
A few days later, I asked to pick up my records. There was no fuss on either end. It felt good to do that without expressing any self-righteous indignation. My action spoke volumes.
In due time, I found the right provider for me, and things worked out better than I had envisioned. When you follow your heart, grace appears.
With my second pregnancy, I encountered the same sort of agenda and discomfort at an appointment around the halfway mark. Although I was silent after hearing about the 3 (!) shots I should get, I made a firm decision to be as loving towards my doctor as possible while also saying ‘no’ at future appointments. I practiced feeling great appreciation for her. I knew that there were many ways she was the right doctor for me. Interestingly, she never brought the topic up again. I think she had an understanding that I truly liked her and did not want her to ‘go there’. I was prepared to walk away, though, like I had done at 33 weeks with my first baby.
Labor and delivery went well, and my heart burst with gratitude. I cried tears of joy on my second day of recovery, and I was so glad that I had been at that particular hospital with that particular team.
Sometimes, you really have to secretly blast people with your love in order for them to understand and respect your boundaries. I’m glad I did that rather than assume I would get a lecture in the third trimester. Talk about self-empowerment! Be positive, and know when to walk.
Each situation is different, and every mom will have her own way of handling it.
Some states are more draconian than others, so proceed with caution. You will want to make sure you don’t get yourself in a dicey situation with people threatening to call CPS.
I am saddened to think of how all of these formidable authorities have pushed women to think that they have no choice but to deliver at home – only to have something go terribly wrong.
But, if I am to believe that the vibration of this planet is rising, I must look forward to a future of holistic-minded practitioners for people at every stage of life. And we all have to play a role in shifting things in that direction.
Go where the good people are.
A final thought:
If you live in the USA, consider the more conservative approaches of our neighbors to the north. They require fewer shots for their babies and children, and they have higher standards for their pharmaceutical products. A Canadian doctor has told me that they all consider the USA “the wild, wild west” of medicine due to the risky new products being rolled out with little to no concern for the unwitting recipients.
Also check out what European countries and Japan have in mind for babies and kids. There is no global standard. Which doctors get bonuses from for-profit companies for having the majority of their patients “up-to-date”? Does it occur to you that bonuses and medicine should never be associated with each other?
The right to informed consent is somehow controversial at this time. I will continue to defend it.
Because, folks, when we don’t have a say over what goes into our bodies, we’ve lost everything.
Mama Bear, I see you doing your good work. And I’m cheering you on.