I will never forget the fortuitous morning that I happened upon an interview with a woman who taught me the Ho’oponopono prayer.
It was a day my heart healed quite a bit. It was a sweet and spontaneous healing that I never saw coming.
Up until that day, I had slowly become more open to new ideas, new words, new sounds, new vibrations. I had been stuck in a rut, and my soul was thirsting for something it wasn’t sure existed.
A show led to a book that led to a website that led to an online summit. And there I was, at the right place at the right time, listening to the words of a wise and loving spiritual teacher named Deborah King. I am so glad I followed my impulse to satiate my desire for some quiet learning time.
As Deborah spoke about a special prayer that heals past hurts, I was intrigued. I had come to terms with the fact that people who were supposed to be role models had fallen short of my expectations. But it still hurt, sometimes. You can’t not feel the loss, the disappointment, the sense of injustice. It creeps up on you when you’re not distracted by work or friends.
During the guided prayer, I was able to be fully present for the memory of one troubled relationship. I had always shrugged it off as something I couldn’t fix. It just had to be what it was, and I had to put on a brave face for life. But in that moment, I was given a little bit of hope. Supposedly, I would be able to clear the pain from my energy field.
Deborah King noted that this prayer applies not only to situations where you are in the wrong, but when the other is completely in the wrong, or when there is fault on both sides. Whatever the dynamic is, this prayer has tremendous healing powers. It has been shown to work miracles in people’s lives.
In the unified field, one small prayer or action can immediately affect someone far away. That’s because time and space are not as restrictive as we have been conditioned to believe.
She had a special technique called The Microcosmic Orbit which she paired with the Ho’oponoopno prayer. The experience was as potent as it was gentle. I surrendered to the beautiful words spoken by her soothing voice.
I love you.
These words opened up a wellspring of grace that restored my soul. I had been seeking this feeling, to no avail, in religious practices handed down to me by the offending person. How strange it was for me to be ensnared by that old program for so long, and to think it could be the source of healing when it was the foundation for the rascal’s behavior.
You have to laugh at the madness.
I finally acknowledged that I had to raise my consciousness to a new level above the one where religion and dogma reside. It was time to ascend to a place of unconditional love and feel compassion for those who cling to outmoded patterns. There was nothing more for me to lament, now that I had been healed.
I could move on with gratitude.
The prayer would come to mind for other people and scenarios. It never failed to bring me peace. One weekend afternoon, I experienced an even deeper healing with the original figure. I was in a large bathtub on a work trip, and I may as well have been in a tranquil Hawaiian lagoon with floating plumerias. There was a real sense of closure. This person and I were finally ‘good’.
And it has truly been that way ever since.
After one distance healing, the energy healer (unbeknownst to me a psychic medium) mentioned to me that this person (whom she had not known about) wanted to share how much they loved me. It had moved the healer to tears. The departed loved one shared the image of white roses with her, and it was meaningful for me. It was validation that this relationship had healed.
I am happy to say that I now speak about this relationship with joy and humor. This person, with all of their faults, was doing the best they could with the resources they had. I sincerely believe that my willingness to transform this relationship (even with them on the Other Side) allows us to move forward into the next lifetime with greater ease.
One year, at the New Living Expo, I picked up a copy of The Book of Ho’oponopono: The Hawaiian Practice of Forgiveness and Healing by Luc Bodin, M.D., Nathalie Bodin Lamoy, and Jean Graciet. It was a wise and heartfelt. I recommend this comprehensive guide to anyone who is intrigued by the sacred Hawaiian prayer.
I won’t claim that this prayer can immediately clear you of traumas that are still relatively fresh. Whenever you are completely gutted by someone’s actions, you are by no means required to forgive them immediately. There are many tools for self-care that you can use before you reach that point in your timeline when you can forgive extreme abuse. (I recommend therapy and support groups for recovering from narcissistic abuse.) Make use of this prayer for people who are not deeply toxic, but rather, ‘those rascals’ – people that you care about, with whom you wish to reconcile. While I cannot promise that they will use their free will to turn a new leaf, I can promise that there is great potential for your own inner transformation.
Ho’oponopono is a remarkable prayer in that it is ‘short and sweet’, yet unexpectedly enriching. If you feel drawn to this ancient prayer loved by many, delve into it on YouTube and check out more works!
He kehau ho`oma`ema`e ke aloha